So this fall I will be starting university and moving 2 hours away from home. Along with leaving my family and friends I will be leaving my boyfriend. We have been together for over a year and he will be staying to pursue an apprenticeship. We have a very open and trusting relationship and I was just wondering if anyone had any experience in this field. What was your situation and how did it work out? Any advice or thoughts on the issue? Anyone going through this right now?

I think two hours away it's not too bad. You can meet like once a week and in other times you can talk on the phone, send emails, etc.

Being in distance is certainly not the bestest thing in the world, but having some time being away from each other strengthens your relationship.
If you really love each other you should at least try to keep it.

How long are you gone for? 3 or 4 years?

my boyfriend moved to the other side of the country to go to university and i was left at home.
however we still talk all the time and are involved.
if you know that your boyfriend is really what you want, then your relationship will last.
but it is very difficult, both financially and emotionally. It's hard to be away from the person you care for the most and long distance calling fees are crazy high.

my experience has been that there are many people who are pessimistic and don't believe that long distance relationships ever work and who feel the need to tell you how insane you are. that's the worst part. and there will be people who try to convice you that he is cheating on you.
it is also important that both of you keep trying in the relationship. this seems really simple but relationships really only last so long as each person is trying to make it work. so make sure that the time you have together is amazing and make sure to always do cute little nice things for each other.

good luck

When I changed school I talked to some of my friends then later on I learned that only 3 or 4 people actually talk to me with me talking first sadly I have about 80 people on my MSN and I'm going to do a final sweep of all the people who don't send me a message soon

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YORK; Honors Arts - History Major/German minor? '12

I'll be in a 4 year program but after I finish that I am going to go for my masters degree so I'll be gone for a while. But I agree with what you guys are saying. It definately does depend on the relationship and I think if both people are prepared for it before hand it makes it easier. I'm not sure what will happen. I hope that things work out but like you said that may invovle ending the relationship......I guess you can just take it one day at a time.

It definitely depends on the relationship. I myself am in a long distance relationship and I know several other people who are making it work. It just matters if you want to make it work or not. Having the space is great but sometimes, weekends are when you do most of your work. So make sure that you don't mess up your marks because you're going home every weekend. It's not worth it.

I personally do not believe that long distance relationships work.
No matter how committed you supposedly are to each other, in your late teens, physical contact is a big factor.
I think the less you see your loved one, the more time they have to think about other options.
This thinking may even lead them to cheat.
This isn't true of course for ALL long-distance relationships, Im not trying to generalize.
But this is what has happened to me from my own personal experience.

You just have to contact each other often; keep in touch. Meeting once a week is preferably a good option as well.

You can always try for a while and see how it goes...not much help worrying about it now.
Maybe try to work on your other communication skills before it's too late (email, skype

I am currently in a long distance of about an hour and a half drive, we have been making it work for over a year. So I would have to say that your long distance relationship can work. However it is alot of work to keep things going, you have to really look at what you both want, and how close you really are. 9 times out of 10 long distance relationships right out of high school end by thanksgiving, thus the turkey dump.