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Rank: Frosh
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All my mom wanted was for me to go to some kind of post secondary school. She was set on me going to college.... my sister is in university and i always compare myself to her. I knew that with dedication i would be able to get into university. SO i did it, all by myself i did all the research and got into 2 universities and still waiting on a few more.... I'm so happy with myself, i think i shocked my mom!
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Rank: Frosh
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The hardest thing about going away to school is not my parents its affording school itself. Me parents agreed to help out a bit, but hard work and hopefully a scholarship will help me get through.
I think that most parents always put pressure on their kids to be better. Which is usually good and makes us try harder.
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Rank: Senior Student
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Joined: 3/5/2008
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Location: Toronto
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I'm lucky. The only stress and pressure I have is what I put on myself. When I was a lot younger there was pressure, but grade 8 I haven't had that. I think its much better this way. I choose where I want to go, what I want to do, and don't have to worry about anything; they've always been supportive.
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Rank: Frosh
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Joined: 3/23/2008
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Location: Ontario, Canada
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The pressure that I had was that I wanted to go out of town for university, but my parents [more specifically my mother] did NOT want me to leave. At all. She refused to get it through her head that, it's my future so it's pretty well my decision where I decide to go. On top of that, I'm probably going to wind up paying for 95% of it myself, if not all of it through scholarships and loans [paying back loans], etc. In fact when I got my early acceptance for OttawaU, she mearly said that I had better get into the local university, becaue "you're not going out of town." Luckily, my parents came around and after visiting the place and talking to some representatives, they're slowly accepting the fact that I'm going away next year.
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Rank: Frosh
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Joined: 3/22/2008
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Location: Saskatoon
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No matter what, make yourself happy. Find what YOU want in life. I graduated from High School with good grades not because my parents dangled some prize at the end. There was no you get: a car, computer, our love, or money. The desire to learn and do well only can come from within.
I took a year off to work, and found out I really want to go to college. I figured out what I don't like to do, and where my passion is. I could spend my whole life trying to get the approval of my family. The truth is my family is probably the last group of people that will accept what I want to do. Be impressed and proud of yourself and everyone else will eventually follow suit.
Todd
p.s. I am attending The Alberta College of Art and Design in the fall, taking "First Year Studies".
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Rank: Frosh
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Joined: 3/24/2008
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Location: surrey
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parents want the best for kids but don't they know that university might not be the best for us.... it sucks that my parents make it sound like i will have no future if i don't get into ubc...  i coulda become a chef or a baker or go into trades...
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Rank: Frosh
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Joined: 3/24/2008
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Location: Canada
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Yeah, it's usually the past struggles that get them motivated to try to motivate you with pressure... also they're scared that without their help, you won't choose the right path and such. Personally, I didn't really get any pressure. I only have financial pressures, but I'm sure most students who hang out on student awards do. =P
"When there is a reason, there is a way." - Even if there is a way though... you can't be lazy. =p
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i want to stay and take a fifth year personally but my parents (well my dad) are completely against that idea. They say it'll be a waste of time and i'll regret it, but i've got many friends who stayed back for a victory lap an dthey don't have regrets. I've applied already (and have been accepted with scholarships) but i'd be willing to defer or pay again next year if my parents'd let me stay. but they're really really really against that and since i'd be living with them i don't know if i'll be able to. They seem to think that by staying a fifth year i'd be missing out on opportunities but i don't see it that way
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Rank: Frosh
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I really don't have alot of pressure from my mother about school. It is something that I want to do for me and to be a role model for my brother to show that anything can be done. 
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Rank: Frosh
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Joined: 3/24/2008
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Location: Canada
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Yea, I have lots of pressure too.. not particularly on which university to get into, but on the faculty of choice.. for them it's something that gets you a "Professional Career" or nothing. =S
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Rank: Frosh
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My parents aren't the type to pressure me to apply to a certain school at all. They respect that I am old enough to make my own choices, and they know better than to nag me. I think that if most parents treated their kids this way, the result would be less pressure and more freedom of choice. They won't be disappointed as long as I am happy.
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Rank: Frosh
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I know what you mean about parental pressure. When I was looking into universities I had a full scholarship at one and a partial scholarship at another. I decided I really wanted to go to the school where I was getting the smaller scholarship. My parents had a hard time with it because of the amount of debt they knew I would have when I graduated. Ultimately though it was my decision. What you need to realize is that your parents are only looking out for your best interests, they want to see you succeed. Also, contrary to what you said, universities are not looking to take everyone. You need to get your applications in, what if the program you are interested in fills up before your application gets there? There is a lot of competition for scholarships, you need to take the time to fill them out well. I spent so many hours on my applications and had so much help and only got ones from the universities I applied at, not the tons of independent scholarships I applied for. This is not something to sit back and take lightly. No school is going to come pounding on your door begging you to come.
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Rank: Frosh
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Joined: 3/24/2008
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Location: Totonto
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Rank: Frosh
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ahahaha. at times like these i just wish that there is some easy button you can press in life that will help you decide (and make a decision that you would be happy with too). But you do have to admit that though there is lots of pressure to get into post-secondary, it is kinda interesting trying to find out what we should go into. On the bright side the pressure kinda motivates me to start making some decisions and not just procrastinate for too long. 
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Rank: Frosh
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Joined: 3/24/2008
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Location: Toronto
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Mine are pressuring me to make a decision and accept my offer of admission early (before May 28th) which I feel is completely unnecessary...I'm weighing my options and thinking about it a lot...and hopefully I'll decide soon lol. Other than that, my parents would love if I went to a University close to home so I don't have to pay for residence, but I'm leaning to go away and I'm paying for school on my own. My advice is to take a step back and not feel pressured from parents to do a program you don't want to do. I'm going into the arts, and for years my parents told me to go into math/science/business because it gets you a high-paying job after Uni...well anyway I'm terrible at math and I've loved writing for as long as I can remember, and eventually they came to accept and support the fact that I could be successful in arts and humanities. It's my life, and I didn't want to get stuck re-doing grade 12 calculus 5x to go into a field of study that a) I didn't like, and b) I was terrible at. So basically I've figured out that we are old enough to make our own decisions about what we want from University. It's not all about getting a career afterwards either...some of us actually enjoy school and learning stuff lol. And if you're tenacious you can pursue a job in the field you want, you just have to work hard.
UWO 2012
Media Information & Technoculture (MIT)
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Rank: Frosh
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Joined: 3/26/2008
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Location: toronto
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Mine want me to go to university but they aren't pressuring me to make a decision RIGHT NOW.
My mom wants me to stay in Toronto while I want to go away, but I guess I have no choice...
And as long as it has something to do with law, business or life sciences she's happy about. Absolutely no ART or DRAMA.
Acting is my passion but I'll always do it on the side, she can't stop me from that haha.
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Rank: Frosh
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Joined: 4/2/2008
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Location: Toronto
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My parents want me to go to U of T, but I don't want to because I don't want to be constantly stressed and in a competition with everyone else...but they're paying for it, so maybe I'll have to go there.
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Rank: Senior Student
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Joined: 3/4/2008
Posts: 200
Location: Sudbury
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serenaaa wrote:My parents want me to go to U of T, but I don't want to because I don't want to be constantly stressed and in a competition with everyone else...but they're paying for it, so maybe I'll have to go there. My parents want me to go to UofT too, but screw that, I'm going to Waterloo!!
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Rank: Valedictorian
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Joined: 3/4/2008
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Location: Alberta
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Toddler wrote:No matter what, make yourself happy. Find what YOU want in life. I graduated from High School with good grades not because my parents dangled some prize at the end. There was no you get: a car, computer, our love, or money. The desire to learn and do well only can come from within.
I took a year off to work, and found out I really want to go to college. I figured out what I don't like to do, and where my passion is. I could spend my whole life trying to get the approval of my family. The truth is my family is probably the last group of people that will accept what I want to do. Be impressed and proud of yourself and everyone else will eventually follow suit.
Todd
p.s. I am attending The Alberta College of Art and Design in the fall, taking "First Year Studies". Props on that man. From what I hear ACAD is a pretty good school and Calgary is a fun city. Glad to hear you're doing what you truly want.
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Rank: Frosh
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Joined: 4/2/2008
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Location: Vancouver
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My parents have never really pressured me about anything academics-related. That said, I've never really given them cause to worry. Honestly, all of my stress is of my own doing. They support me fully, but I've never felt them breathing down my necks. It's a pretty good situation.
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