My parents wanted me to go on to post-secondary education, get some kind of career out of it, they pressured me but not alot. I have to say I'm very thankful for that. And the fact that they let me choose what I wanted to was even better, they didn't pressure me to become a doctor or something that I would hate. I got into Sheridan, my top college, for Journalism, something that Ive always dreamt of, and they are happy with that. My only problem is the amount of money that college is going to cost me. Thats what my parents nagged about "you have to get a full time job if you're taking a year off so you can pay for your college costs!!" My parents aren't helping me out with college money so I have to pay for it myself. I hate it when my friends are freaking out with uni and everything and they whine about their parents nagging them about procrastinating when they get their tuition paid for by their parents. now THAT is annoying

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And All The Drama Is Eventually Worth It

When I first graduated from high school my mother was all about applying. She had her friends talk to me, and she tricked me into a field trip to a few schools I had applied to. I knew I wasn't ready for the education. I had no idea what I wanted to do and she was forcing me to go right away and forcing me to come up with the money myself. I wasn't ready and ultimately decided to take a few years off. My mother swore up and down that if I didn't go as soon as I graduated I would never attend post secondary studies.

I agree with her now, that it is much harder to find motivation when you are older. It is also harder to find the finances and the time since you collect so many burdens working full time in the 'real world'. However, four years after I graduated high school I am going back to school. I feel 100% more confident than I did when I first applied in 2004 and I finally feel comfortable with my choice.

Do not let your parents decide what is right for you. It is much harder to take a year or two off but for some people it is the right choice.

this reminds me of this article i wrote once about your parent putting pressure on their kids to get LADE.

Lawyer
Accountant
Doctor
Engineer

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I mean there's definitely parent pressure for me to go into university but not a lot. I think I put more pressure on myself to get into university than my parents because ever since I was little I wanted to make it into university and if I didn't I would let myself down.

Yeah, my parents were bugging me a lot about it in January-ish when it was time to apply for universities. But now they kind of calmed down. However, it is now my relatives and grandparents turn to bug me! They keep asking where I applied and where I got applied to and stuff. They need to let us chilllll

^ I think a lot of parents want their children to become what they (the parents) could never be---they live out their own (failed) dreams through their children. As such, they may not be acting in a manner that is best for their children. The situation you described is probably the most common, but you may be looking through rose-coloured glasses.

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Honours Physiology and Psychology UWO '09

My parents are never satisfied with my marks, if i get a 95 they will tell me to do better next time. Both of my older brothers got into university, that isn't the hard part though. My one brother got in with a high entrance award, he had a 94% and was given scholarships. My mom always tells me to do really good so i can get the same scholarships that my brother gets. My average is only around 85% which is not good enough for them

If you're paying for it all yourself, what does your mother's opinion matter?

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-Stringer

Just remember that it is your life, not your mother's. I talk to my parents and get advice all the time, but I don't necessarily follow it all. After all, it's me, not them, who has to live with the consequences.

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-Stringer

My dad has pushed for brain surgery in my future but really, it just comes down to whether or not you can live with yourself if you crumble against their will.