Try harder, work faster, the end of the year is almost here! Why havn't you applied yet? Where are you going to go? What do you want to be?

These questions have my friends and I buzzing. Our parents are breathing down our necks to be successful and to try for everything. We don't understand what the big deal is.
I think that the reason our parents do this is because when they were younger they had to fight for what they wanted and it was a real struggle. Only the best got in. There wasn't alot of space to be accepted into university so they were lucky if they got in. These days the universities are trying to get all of us and we are so lazy that we dont want to try anything. There are only certain few who do try from the very beginning.
My friends and I are the procrastinators of our generation. we are waiting till the last minute to do everything. scholarships, applications, registrations, etc. it is a real pain to try and do everything now.
Our parents are only trying to help us right? or are they doing it on a personal level? (if my kid doesnt get into that college/university, does it mean that i am a bad parent?) etc.
Let me know what you think.

Alannah

Wow, your parents are pretty intense. My parents have told me that they will accept whatever I want to do or wherever I want to go. Anyways, best of luck!

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Biological and Medical Science UWO 2012

my parents don't care at all... i'm attending university from pure self interest

My parents told me that they support me whether I choose university or college. They don't care what I do as long as I get some sort of post-secondary education.

My parents are pretty open with me going anywhere..
or maybe that's because i alone chose UofT as my first choice among other well-known schools.
but my dad still tells me that i won't be accepted anywhere.
whatever, i know i'm going to be accepted somewhere and that's all that matters since they're not paying s-h-i-t anyway.

My parents always say they will support whatever i do, but i know they really want me to go to university. Neither of them went so it means a lot to them. i want to go anyway, so its okay. But i know that while parents say one thing they can really mean another, which sometimes affects my decisions.

I believe they are trying to help and do not realize that constantly "reminding" us is not helping at all.
On some level, and that will be different from individual to individual, they might experience it on a personal level, like shame (if you do not get in), or pride (if you do), but I imagine that that would happen after the fact.

Sometimes I find myself wondering if University is actually where I want go or if it's only where I want to go because that's all my teachers, parents and society have been telling me for the past couple years. I remember in grade 8 when everyone was choosing their classes, my classmates and I had an opportunity to talk with our teachers about the classes that would be good for us, and what they think. I remember my teacher saying to me "You need to be in all academic level courses, because you're going to university." It wasn't a "you'll probably end up going there" or "You have the ability to go" it was just "You're going there!"

I'm really tired of school to be honest. But I feel like, if I don't go, I'm not going to get a 'good' job and I'll be working blah jobs for the rest of my life.

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Success is not the key to happiness, happiness is the key to success. If you love what you do in life, you will be a success!!

Yeah my parents often stress me out about that kind of thing. I know they just want what's best for me but sometimes it does start to feel like there is too much on my plate. I mean between my current schoolwork, sports, friends, work, scholarship and university applications I feel stressed out enough. I just try to remember that they have been through it before and are probably just attempting to help me avoid mistakes.

yeah i'm pretty much in the same situation