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So, a person can't "get there feet under them" while living with a boyfriend or girlfriend?
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D.Dickin wrote:So, a person can't "get there feet under them" while living with a boyfriend or girlfriend? You can, but it will hurt a lot more when somebody pulls the rug out from under you.
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Why can't you establish yourself and be with a boyfriend or girlfriend? Unless you're relying entirely on their success and money, you should be able to get yourself grounded.
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My boyfriend went off to university last year and I finished my last year of high school. I'm not going to lie: it was tough at times. He was busy with things I didn't have to worry about, then I was busy with my extra-curriculars, and there was a point where we were both ready to call it quits. We've stuck it out and we're a better couple now. In the sense that we're more open with each other and speak up more readily when something's up. It also makes you realize how precious time with someone is when you only get to see them once or twice a week (and one of those times, you're sitting in church  )
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thank you emuravyeva for being so on topic in this thread! my boyfriend and i have been together for a year... i'm going to u of t and he'll be going to laurier brantford in september. it's both of our first times away from home. right now we see eachother almost everyday...that's why i'm so unsure of whether we will work out not seeing eachother since we're really not used to it.
i agree with you that since we will be apart we'll probably appreciate the little time that we do see each other a lot more...it's just whether or not we make it to that appreciation stage...
he's absolutely positive that he wants us to stay together and try and work through first year...but he also has this idea in his head that we'll be seeing each other a lot more than we actually will.
but ahhh what other choice do i have? if i break things off with him i know i will get the "what ifs?" later on
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If you want to stay together that's great, but you're young and if you stay with him just because of "what ifs" you're kind of holding yourself back.
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The long distance can also really help a relationship out Mine was for the first year, with 400+ kilometres between us. It shows a lot to be willing to commit to a relationship with someone you only see on webcam and talk to on the phone every day. It takes a different person to be able to do that, and it means a lot to both parties if they're both willing to make it work. Besides, doesn't taking a $125 bus trip every month show you care?  
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I like how the thread has died now that Stringer has been proven wrong My girlfriend is going to have a field day with responding to this 
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D.Dickin wrote:I like how the thread has died now that Stringer has been proven wrong My girlfriend is going to have a field day with responding to this Proven wrong? If you say so... You will be surprised when you enter the real world at how ignorant you were as a teen. Your immaturity is showcased in your response, trying to take that final last jab at somebody, behind the mask of anonymity on the internet. But hey, we were all know-it-all's when we were your age, so I guess I can't expect anything else. I truly hope you and your girlfriend have a long, fruitful relationship. Unfortunately, statistically-speaking, your relationship will likely end sooner rather than later. Further, if you are in a shared living environment with this person, it will almost certainly be awkward at the very least. But hey, part of life is experiencing these things on your own and learning from them.
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Anonymity? My name here is my real-life name, and I only live about a 20 minute walk away from you... How am I trying to be anonymous?
I'm not trying to make any final stabs at you, I just found it funny how you were proven wrong and the thread died. Some relationships work, some don't. The most recent statistic I heard for divorce was that it was at 50% - so there's an equal chance a relationship will work as if it will not. The attitude you took seemed to show you already knew it was going to end, even though the people who were actually in the relationships were saying they're fine.
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D.Dickin wrote:Anonymity? My name here is my real-life name, and I only live about a 20 minute walk away from you... How am I trying to be anonymous?
I'm not trying to make any final stabs at you, I just found it funny how you were proven wrong and the thread died. Some relationships work, some don't. The most recent statistic I heard for divorce was that it was at 50% - so there's an equal chance a relationship will work as if it will not. The attitude you took seemed to show you already knew it was going to end, even though the people who were actually in the relationships were saying they're fine. Marriage isn't a relationship, chief. People have dozens of relationships in their lives but few marriages.
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Stringer wrote:erinc wrote:My two cents: If I were you I'd take the risk and move in. The worst case scenario is dealing with the awkwardness after breakup, in the case that there even is breakup. Plus, most of my friends who broke up are still on civilized terms with each other. There are far worse things in life than awkwardness. How are you gonna get through in life if you are afraid of mere awkward situation? I would say living with an ex after a rough break up is a little more than "awkward", especially if it's a bad breakup or they get involved with somebody else. But hey, that's just me. reminds me of the movie THE BREAK UP i understand where he is coming from but u sound very pessimist and life is abt moving forward and taking risks if u love the person and willing to comprimise stuff it ll just prove how strong the relationship is
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Stringer wrote:D.Dickin wrote:I like how the thread has died now that Stringer has been proven wrong My girlfriend is going to have a field day with responding to this Proven wrong? If you say so... You will be surprised when you enter the real world at how ignorant you were as a teen. Your immaturity is showcased in your response, trying to take that final last jab at somebody, behind the mask of anonymity on the internet. But hey, we were all know-it-all's when we were your age, so I guess I can't expect anything else. I truly hope you and your girlfriend have a long, fruitful relationship. Unfortunately, statistically-speaking, your relationship will likely end sooner rather than later. Further, if you are in a shared living environment with this person, it will almost certainly be awkward at the very least. But hey, part of life is experiencing these things on your own and learning from them. Stringer, I'm just curious, how old are you?
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Stringer wrote:If you don't think you're going to evolve in university, you're insane. Were you the same person in elementary school as you are now?
My point is this:
Nobody knows what the future holds. Putting yourself in a financial situation that depends on a relationship while you are in university is risky. If you accept that risk, realize that you could
a) Be stuck in a terrible financial situation
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b) Be stuck in a terrible living arrangement this topic sounded interesting (since i am very very against bf/gf going to same schools after highschool as i firmly believe that highschool relationships are very pointless) so i read things and although i very much agree with Stringer (yes, money matters and living with an ex would suck) but if two people in the relationship are aware of the consequences - such as the 12-month lease costs and the possible senarios of living with your ex if a breakup happens) - they should totally do it. Although i believe that highschool relationships can't last (probably because i havent been in one longer than 3 months) if they lasted for a year or two like the people who wrote on this forum, i can't imagine throwing that away just because you are scared of the financla situation and the 'terrible living arrangement' that MAY or may NOT happen. If it worked out for 1-2 years in highschool who says it can't work? but i do think living together keeps you very grounded and tied down, which is something id hate...
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I think Stringer is like in his 2nd or 3rd year of university?
at schulich @ york i believe?
if im wrong im sorry but i swear i saw your name on many of the schulich/business school posts...
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I think the feeling of being tied down depends on the relationship. With my boyfriend if I want to go hang out with my friends then I'm going to. We're not attached at the hip. Seperate lives are important, but are something you have to work at having, as it's quite easy to just sit at home with each other.
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I'm not saying they should breakup, just reconsider living together.
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karla wrote:Stringer wrote:D.Dickin wrote:I like how the thread has died now that Stringer has been proven wrong My girlfriend is going to have a field day with responding to this Proven wrong? If you say so... You will be surprised when you enter the real world at how ignorant you were as a teen. Your immaturity is showcased in your response, trying to take that final last jab at somebody, behind the mask of anonymity on the internet. But hey, we were all know-it-all's when we were your age, so I guess I can't expect anything else. I truly hope you and your girlfriend have a long, fruitful relationship. Unfortunately, statistically-speaking, your relationship will likely end sooner rather than later. Further, if you are in a shared living environment with this person, it will almost certainly be awkward at the very least. But hey, part of life is experiencing these things on your own and learning from them. Stringer, I'm just curious, how old are you? 3rd Year University.
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Stringer, didn't you say in another thread that you had graduated from university, with an Arts degree?
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qwertqwert wrote:Stringer, didn't you say in another thread that you had graduated from university, with an Arts degree? Not that I know of.
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