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erinc wrote:My two cents: If I were you I'd take the risk and move in. The worst case scenario is dealing with the awkwardness after breakup, in the case that there even is breakup. Plus, most of my friends who broke up are still on civilized terms with each other. There are far worse things in life than awkwardness. How are you gonna get through in life if you are afraid of mere awkward situation?  I would say living with an ex after a rough break up is a little more than "awkward", especially if it's a bad breakup or they get involved with somebody else. But hey, that's just me.
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Not everybody has bad breakups. In fact most are quite civilized
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karla wrote:Not everybody has bad breakups. In fact most are quite civilized Even if it's not a bad breakup, who wants to live 1-on-1 with their ex? There's enough drama with roommates without a breakup looming, not the mention the trouble that would start if other relationships were started.
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NEM99 wrote:Just let him have his fun guys. Perhaps we'll get to see a quite emo D.Dickin in 6 months complaining about his cheating exgirlfriend and the fact he now has no where to live. LOL, I second the notion.
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ACTH wrote:NEM99 wrote:Just let him have his fun guys. Perhaps we'll get to see a quite emo D.Dickin in 6 months complaining about his cheating exgirlfriend and the fact he now has no where to live. LOL, I second the notion. I really think ur all a bit skeptical. While the reference to lightning may have been overboard, I get his point. If you are that into a relationship (past the, if you step out of line one time your girlfriend will explode and ditch you in an hour stage), its fair to take it further. Everyone who isn't in full ownership of a home, and moves in with their sig. other is taking this "risk". It's not a bad thing. If they're at that stage, there's nothing wrong with it, and if they're mature, and they break up, living together won't be hell. They're also probably smart enough, given a breakup, to keep the relationship outside that appartment/house until their lease is up...
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eco wrote:ACTH wrote:NEM99 wrote:Just let him have his fun guys. Perhaps we'll get to see a quite emo D.Dickin in 6 months complaining about his cheating exgirlfriend and the fact he now has no where to live. LOL, I second the notion. I really think ur all a bit skeptical. While the reference to lightning may have been overboard, I get his point. If you are that into a relationship (past the, if you step out of line one time your girlfriend will explode and ditch you in an hour stage), its fair to take it further. Everyone who isn't in full ownership of a home, and moves in with their sig. other is taking this "risk". It's not a bad thing. If they're at that stage, there's nothing wrong with it, and if they're mature, and they break up, living together won't be hell. They're also probably smart enough, given a breakup, to keep the relationship outside that appartment/house until their lease is up... Funny that a lot of people who have never lived away from their parents, let alone with an ex are speaking up here. Do you really think you're a reliable source of information?
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Although of course this varies from relationship to relationship (and from person to person) I would generally say that living under the same roof with someone you deeply care about isn’t often the best of ideas. I’ve seen relationships get particularly sour and nasty because living together means you also get to be together through the thick and thin. Some partners haven’t been around each other long enough to decipher their problems appropriately.
But best of luck to anyone taking this route!
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Stringer have you lived with a girlfriend/ex?
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karla wrote:Stringer have you lived with a girlfriend/ex? No, that would be stupid.
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Stringer wrote:
Funny that a lot of people who have never lived away from their parents, let alone with an ex are speaking up here. Do you really think you're a reliable source of information?
Funny that someone who has never lived with a significant other is an expert on what might happen.
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karla wrote:Stringer wrote:
Funny that a lot of people who have never lived away from their parents, let alone with an ex are speaking up here. Do you really think you're a reliable source of information?
Funny that someone who has never lived with a significant other is an expert on what might happen. I have seen it happen, multiple times. I have also lived with roommates and know what it's like.
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eco wrote:
I really think ur all a bit skeptical. While the reference to lightning may have been overboard, I get his point. If you are that into a relationship (past the, if you step out of line one time your girlfriend will explode and ditch you in an hour stage), its fair to take it further. Everyone who isn't in full ownership of a home, and moves in with their sig. other is taking this "risk". It's not a bad thing. If they're at that stage, there's nothing wrong with it, and if they're mature, and they break up, living together won't be hell. They're also probably smart enough, given a breakup, to keep the relationship outside that appartment/house until their lease is up...
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Stringer wrote:karla wrote:Stringer have you lived with a girlfriend/ex? No, that would be stupid. So you're basing your entire argument on what you've seen happen? You haven't even had a bad personal experience to give some relevance to your argument?
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D.Dickin wrote:Stringer wrote:karla wrote:Stringer have you lived with a girlfriend/ex? No, that would be stupid. So you're basing your entire argument on what you've seen happen? You haven't even had a bad personal experience to give some relevance to your argument? Why would I need a personal experience to validate this? I've seen friends go down the road and when the relationship doesn't work out it's a nightmare. But hey, you're an all-knowing high schooler so who am I to impart some advice on you? You will find out the hard way if your relationship fails, which most do.
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Stringer wrote:
Funny that a lot of people who have never lived away from their parents, let alone with an ex are speaking up here. Do you really think you're a reliable source of information?
You just questioned the reliability of someone else because they had no personal experience, neither do you. What makes your point any more valid? And what makes you more knowledgable because you're a couple of year older?
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karla wrote:Stringer wrote:
Funny that a lot of people who have never lived away from their parents, let alone with an ex are speaking up here. Do you really think you're a reliable source of information?
You just questioned the reliability of someone else because they had no personal experience, neither do you. What makes your point any more valid? And what makes you more knowledgable because you're a couple of year older? Because I have friends who have experienced it... How do you not understand the fact that it sucks to live with an ex?
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And I have friends who have moved in with their boyfriend or girlfriend and it's worked out fine. I have also had friends who broke up with a boyfriend/girlfriend while living together and it wasn't hell and they dealt with it like adults.
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karla wrote:And I have friends who have moved in with their boyfriend or girlfriend and it's worked out fine. I have also had friends who broke up with a boyfriend/girlfriend while living together and it wasn't hell and they dealt with it like adults. Yes, it CAN work out. Nobody is saying it can't. But why risk it? University is a transition period with a lot of uncertainty. To me, it makes a lot more sense to get your feet under you for a year at least before moving in with a significant other.
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Waterloo is so much different from Kitchener   What do you mean by "getting your feet under you"? Why can't a person do this while they're with their boyfriend or girlfriend?
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D.Dickin wrote:Waterloo is so much different from Kitchener What do you mean by "getting your feet under you"? Why can't a person do this while they're with their boyfriend or girlfriend? Have fun.
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