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Well I just finished my first year, and while university is obviously different from high school, the difference wasn't huge and any changes that I have gone through I think would've happened regardless.
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Long distance relationships in university work out great. You’re way too busy to ponder about your significant other, too busy to think about leaving them and certainly too busy to look for someone new. Or maybe I just led a very sad and nerdy life frosh year... 
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I said that I don't see it as being that different - as in I'm not going to suddenly change my entire lifestyle, personal habits, work ethic, and outlook on life just because I've began university. The only things that will change will be the financial situation of me having to live on my own and pay bills. There's also comments like this, from students who have gone to university: karla wrote:Well I just finished my first year, and while university is obviously different from high school, the difference wasn't huge and any changes that I have gone through I think would've happened regardless.
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If you don't think you're going to evolve in university, you're insane. Were you the same person in elementary school as you are now?
My point is this:
Nobody knows what the future holds. Putting yourself in a financial situation that depends on a relationship while you are in university is risky. If you accept that risk, realize that you could
a) Be stuck in a terrible financial situation
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b) Be stuck in a terrible living arrangement
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seamoraine wrote:Long distance relationships in university work out great. You’re way too busy to ponder about your significant other, too busy to think about leaving them and certainly too busy to look for someone new. Or maybe I just led a very sad and nerdy life frosh year... Sounds like it, just a bit lol. I don't think its a common problem in university to find guys/girls to screw around with. I am going to do the uni w/ bf/gf thing, which I think should work out fine, and be a good test on teh relationship. Long distance, personally, would mean alot of time wasted thinking about them, and less fun then if they were there.
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What does this have to do with finances, you can go to uni with ur bf/gf and not live together (mostly 1st year). If you've been together 2+ years, and a year in uni, I don't see why not try living together if ur ready. It'd be like any couple deciding to live together,.
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It's a financial situation that depends on a roommate, and he just chose his girlfriend to be his roommate.
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It has to do with finances because if you breakup you will likely want to move away from each other, which would be difficult since you'll be signed to a lease.
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Stringer wrote:If you don't think you're going to evolve in university, you're insane. Were you the same person in elementary school as you are now?
My point is this:
Nobody knows what the future holds. Putting yourself in a financial situation that depends on a relationship while you are in university is risky. If you accept that risk, realize that you could
a) Be stuck in a terrible financial situation
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b) Be stuck in a terrible living arrangement I don't think I'll be the exact same person as I am now. Not changing in any form would be outrageous - I agree with you there. However, the reason the relationship is together is because of things that do not change - all of those sweet, pretty things women like to receive and feel   If I were to change my personality and way I treated my girlfriend just because of living together, then I really wasn't showing who I really was earlier in the relationship. I don't expect her to suddenly change either, and if either of us had second thoughts about it we wouldn't agree with the other one.
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So essentially you are saying that you will never break up? Optimistic, but perhaps you should take off the rose-coloured glasses and see the world for what it is: an unpredictable place where the only guarantees are death and taxes.
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He never said any such thing. Obviously people don't go into relationships expecting to break up. I think anyone in any relationship will acknowledge the possibility of the relationship ending. That doesn't mean saying "Yeah, we'll probably break up anyways, so why bother doing anything meaningful in our lives together?"
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Of course the possibility exists that the relationship could end. The possibility also exists that a large meteor will strike the Earth and kill us, or that I could be struck my lightning while walking to work. They're all unlikely, but they're acknowleged as existing. If we weren't at least a little optimistic about our lives, nothing would get done. Why go to university? You could fail and then you've wasted your money. Why get a job? You're going to have to spend most or all of your money anyway. Why move in together? You're probably going to break up.
If everyone followed such a pessimistic outlook no one would get anything done. Risk is an element of everyone's life that needs to be evaluated and then decisions made depending on those risks. Perhaps your relationship(s) was at a different point and you didn't feel comfortable with moving in together, but that's not to say it can't happen responsibly and carefully for other couples.
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LOL. I can't believe you're comparing the possibility of breaking up with your high school girlfriend with the possibility of getting struck with lightning. What twisted reality do you live in?
The reality is that most relationships don't end in marriage. This trend is even more pronounced when the relationship is between young people.
It's not about whether you're comfortable moving in together. It's about dealing with the situation if you break up. Breakups are bad enough without throwing a big financial monkey wrench into the situation.
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My sentiments exactly. The odds of you breaking up are much closer to being hit by lightning than the odds of you staying together. It always helps to prepare for the worst case scenario.
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True, the lightning scenario odds are a little far-fetched in comparison. However, it remains that if we were to never take risks no one would get anywhere in life. The "risk" is always present and possible - that you'll be struck by lightning, break-up, or die at a young age. They are also going to vary from person to person - some may never find a solid boyfriend or girlfriend for more than a month or two at a time; others can find their soulmate within a day of being with a person. You can't accurately judge someone else's relationships based on your own experience.
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Just let him have his fun guys. Perhaps we'll get to see a quite emo D.Dickin in 6 months complaining about his cheating exgirlfriend and the fact he now has no where to live.
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 You're treating us as if we've been together for a week and are going to be getting married and moving in together next week. That's not the scenario. No relationship can be based off someone else's experience.
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D.Dickin wrote: You're treating us as if we've been together for a week and are going to be getting married and moving in together next week. That's not the scenario. No relationship can be based off someone else's experience. You don't get it. There is a chance that you will break up with your girlfriend. If that happens, you could be stuck in an awkward financial and living situation.
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My two cents: If I were you I'd take the risk and move in. The worst case scenario is dealing with the awkwardness after breakup, in the case that there even is breakup. Plus, most of my friends who broke up are still on civilized terms with each other. There are far worse things in life than awkwardness. How are you gonna get through in life if you are afraid of mere awkward situation? 
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Stringer wrote:karla wrote:I don't see what the huge deal is about that. Yeah it might suck but you can't go through a relationship not doing things because "what if we break up" Yes you can. Why do you think people sign prenups, and that's for marriage. Being stuck in a living situation together is just asking for trouble. Prenups are rediculous. If you're marrying someone, you should care about and trust them more than that... imo
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