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Stringer wrote:karla wrote:I don't see what the huge deal is about that. Yeah it might suck but you can't go through a relationship not doing things because "what if we break up" Yes you can. Why do you think people sign prenups, and that's for marriage. Being stuck in a living situation together is just asking for trouble. Depending on the nature of the breakup, it wouldn't necessarily be such a bad thing. And while I certainly agree it could get nasty, you could be living with a roommate who you aren't dating that gets pretty nasty too. Chances are the bf/gf you have at the end of high school isn't going to be the one you stay with forever. Most people will break up. But that doesn't mean that it doesn't work for some people. I do have good friends who have been together since high school and are still together.
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You could sublet or get a shorter lease in the first place
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karla wrote:You could sublet or get a shorter lease in the first place Subleting can be difficult. Also, who stays and who goes? Not many apartments around universities let you rent month-to-month, at least in my experience. All I'm saying is that getting into a 12-month lease with your significant other is a big risk. If the relationship fails, you could a big problem.
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It's also a big risk of married couples to buy a house. Afterall, if they get divorced who gets the house, and who moves out? Same scenario.
Each indiviudal couple needs to know where they are in the relationship and where they'd like to go. You seem to be awfully negative about anything pertaining to a relationship, perhaps from personal experience?
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D.Dickin wrote:It's also a big risk of married couples to buy a house. Afterall, if they get divorced who gets the house, and who moves out? Same scenario.
Each indiviudal couple needs to know where they are in the relationship and where they'd like to go. You seem to be awfully negative about anything pertaining to a relationship, perhaps from personal experience? I'm just warning you that it's a big risk. What are you going to do if you break up?
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Work it out, like all dedicated couples do 
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D.Dickin wrote:Work it out, like all dedicated couples do It's different when you're no longer a couple, especially if it is a bad breakup. I have seen it happen.
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But your argument is still ridiculous. So all couples should never move in together or never buy a house together or never take any financial risks together. Yes stuff could happen. You work it out when it happens.
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I completely agree with Stringer. Especially for first year.. university lifestyle can change people completely, and it is extremely unrealistic to compare relationships coming out of highschool to marriages.
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University lifestyle is not that different at all. Couples need to make that step to move in together eventually. If it doesn't work out oh well, you learn.
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Unfortunately, I see Stringer's point.
It's always about the money.
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I'm just saying you could have the exact same bad experience with a roommate. What happens if you hate your roommate, and then you're locked into a lease for 12 months? It's a very similar situation.
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Stringer wrote:D.Dickin wrote:Work it out, like all dedicated couples do It's different when you're no longer a couple, especially if it is a bad breakup. I have seen it happen. Perhaps preventing it from being a "bad" breakup will help in that situation then (preventing the breakup all together is even better too!).
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MatthewAlexander wrote:I completely agree with Stringer. Especially for first year.. university lifestyle can change people completely, and it is extremely unrealistic to compare relationships coming out of highschool to marriages. I don't see the "university lifestyle" as being that different from high school. The only major differences are the workload and having more time away from school (although it is harder while in school). Living on my own, paying bills, and counting on myself for surviving doesn't have anything to do with university.
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Does anyone know why... like all the posts from this thread have been deleted?
We have rediculous stuff happen unchecked for weeks sometimes on this forum, but admins come and delete legitimate conversation...
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No idea here. Do you know exactly what posts have gone missing? Perhaps you could PM one of the Admin's to see what the reasoning is for doing such?
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Stringer wrote:karla wrote:You could sublet or get a shorter lease in the first place Subleting can be difficult. Also, who stays and who goes? Not many apartments around universities let you rent month-to-month, at least in my experience. All I'm saying is that getting into a 12-month lease with your significant other is a big risk. If the relationship fails, you could a big problem. While I agree 12 months is the standard, there is shorter term stuff available. For example, co-op students wind up having to sublet their places after they get a job in a different city, so you can sublet from them. And then situations where someone is, for example, renting out a basement apartment in their home may be more flexible than dealing with a large rental company in a highrise. I will add that I wouldn't, in general, advise people to move in together when starting university. Moving in together can be a big deal in any relationship, where you find out a bunch of annoying habits of the other person you didn't know about, etc. and going from seeing them a few times a week to living with them is a big difference; and then starting university at the same time and moving to a new city adds to that. And as Stringer suggests, breakups can be nasty. But I'm not going to pronounce on here that it's a terrible idea for absolutely every couple. If they've been together for 2 years already, well, that's a much better situation than someone considering it whose been together 6 months. And, any situation where you are living with someone else can break down into nastiness, even if they are just a roommate. I've been there. I've also known people who lived together and broke up where it wasn't nasty, they just continued to live together as roommates.
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D.Dickin wrote:No idea here. Do you know exactly what posts have gone missing? Perhaps you could PM one of the Admin's to see what the reasoning is for doing such? I think about 2 pages. And no, but a couple of mine were in there.
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CRAZYBUBBA wrote:-It's a great way to test the relationship's longevity.
-It keeps you grounded.
Totally agreed!
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D.Dickin wrote:MatthewAlexander wrote:I completely agree with Stringer. Especially for first year.. university lifestyle can change people completely, and it is extremely unrealistic to compare relationships coming out of highschool to marriages. I don't see the "university lifestyle" as being that different from high school. The only major differences are the workload and having more time away from school (although it is harder while in school). Living on my own, paying bills, and counting on myself for surviving doesn't have anything to do with university. How can you make that assumption when you haven't even been to university for one day?
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