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Hi, I'm new to this site and I figured a lot of people who are on this site might share the same fears as I do. I've lived with my family for 18 years now and coming this summer I will be moving 2 hours away from them. I don't know how other people are dealing with the stress of moving away, and the pressures of doing well in university. I was just wondering how other people are dealing with the situation and how they feel about it. Maybe you may have some advice for me  , thanks Karra
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Location: Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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I moved 45 min away from my parents last september and even being this close it can suck. I took my teddy bear and I hold him close at night. I also got a plan on my cell phone and put my parent's in as one of my fave. five. It also helps that I moved into my aunt and uncle's place. Set your parents up with an msn account so that you can talk to them all the time, if they don't already have one. That's all I can think of for now....I hope that was of some use to you.
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I am in the same boat. I plan on going to school about 2hrs from home and I'm a small town girl going to the big city, so culture shock. I think the best thing is to keep in touch, msn is our friend. Also, it's good to get involved and to meet people. I have a few friends where I'm going so hope that keeping busy won't allow time to miss home.
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I live just outside of Edmonton, so I'll be staying at home and commuting to school.
I actually kind of wish I did move out for school. There's a lot fewer distractions when you're living in res than at home, and my study habits SUCK. Not good for engineering.
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Location: Canada
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I'm planning on moving to another province for postsecondary, but I don't know what it would be like in residence. What's worse is, I don't no anyone over there. Has anyone ever stayed in residence before? What was it like?
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Rank: Frosh
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Location: Burnaby
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Hi!
I would suggest people moving out to first know that it will be a challenging thing to do. It may sound terrific at first being by yourself, but this is the time you learn to appreciate your parents and everything you had before leaving home. Go out and meet new friends, join clubs and other activities, EXERCISE AND EAT HEALTHY! Exercise is very important, when you feel down and depressed, it helps to just exercise. It is importnat to have a balanced diet, and it will be tough at first if you did not cook at home. Also, maintain a positive attitude, when you come across challenges, you should be confident taking them on, and know that it will better you. In other words, if you leave home to university, know that the experience you will go through will in many ways make you learn, grow and better you as a person. You will learn more than the people that stay home and study.
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Location: Lethbridge
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I moved an ocean and a continent away from my family...for High school! It's hard, don't let anyone tell you it's easy...but it's not that difficult if you have friends around you who are all in the same boat. I go to an international high school in Italy and we all missed our parents and it took us time to adjust to the freedom and responsibility of being on our own...especially leaving the nest a year earlier than what would have been expected. So when you leave home and go to school meet people and don't forget the freedoms you are gaining by moving away...no more curfews or maybe you have a sibling that has some habits that drive you nuts... And e mail and call home...i e mail my mom almost everyday and i call once a week...it's really nice. And if you are only 2 hours away you can always go home for the weekend! I can't go home until summer holidays!
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Location: Ottawa
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I moved several provinces away. I'm really glad I did. I like my school, I like where I live. The only things that suck are doing your own laundry and cooking. I find that people who go away to school meet more people (through residence, etc.). If I miss my parents I pick up the phone. It's as simple as that.
As for residence...I'm glad I stayed in residence for my first year. I met a lot of great people, but there were also people I didn't get along with (excessive partiers). So, in short it was a goood experience, but I will never do it again.
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I have had the same thing happen to me, I am going to do it all over again this fall. What I did the first time was go to the Student services center at the college and talk to someone about it. after that I felt much better about living away from home for the first time in 21 years. it also helped to have my older sister, who has been away from home before, there with me. also it helped to have a pet too.
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Location: Winnipeg
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I think moving away to a different location should be a new and exciting experience. People should not frett and just live life to it's fulllest. I think if we were all made of money we should all travel to see how the world is viewed by different cultures.
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moving away for the first time can be both exciting and terrifying! Are you going to have a room mate or live in student residence? Sometimes it makes it a little better to have others around. Like one poster said, head down to student services and talk to someone there, they will give you ways to cope. Get on line or get a good phone plan so you can call home often to talk. Also, get involved with extra things a school, join clubs etc, (just don't over do it , you still have to study!) 
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I've always wanted to move away from home but my parents bought a house near the university I have always been planning to go to. So now I have to stay home because it's only a 10 minute walk and am still trying to find what the advantages are for staying home while in university.
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I think that people shouldn't move away for the sake of moving away. It should be based on the program that you want to go into and how much you like the university, after all you are paying for it...
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my friend went to university four hours away from her family, and it was pretty emotionally tough for her and her family for the first little while. She said that most of her rez floor locked themselves in their rooms and cried for the first week... but even though she could have, she didn't go home because it is important to get through that first tough part and then it will get easier.
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Rank: Frosh
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I'm going either six hours away or 3500km away.
It may be a bit rough, but I'm actually really looking forward to the independance.
Silly art schools, not telling me until mid/late-March.
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Rank: Frosh
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Location: Toronto
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I'm a bit worried about moving away if I do get accepted to Trent (I live in Toronto) because I will be away from everyone and will only be able to see them on friday's and saturdays (depending on weather) and I've never really been away from my parent's for very long without getting homesick. But I think in the end, my parent's would worry more than me.
York University- Psychology (BA Honors) '12
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I was 18 when I moved three hours away, and the FIRST time I felt homesick was when my mom came to visit two months later. I was just a mess and it was so weird! I hadn't "missed" home, but when I saw her I was a blubbering baby.
Then I moved from residence to a house w/ four friends this year. My family helped me move in, and when they were leaving... I did it again! I have honestly never been like that.
I am much better about it now, you ARE going to see your family again, but I think it would be silly to go away thinking that there is no way you are going to be homesick for at least a night or two, or a month! There is no shame!
Uschi
Queen's '10
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for me, i only applied to U of W because it is so close to my house and i can go there without leaving home
that is how badly i do not want to leave my house
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For me, i'm going to be living at home throughout my school because during school, my parents don't make me pay room and board during school. I can't imagine moving away, it must be scary, but also exciting. I'm sure after a little adjustment you'll be fine.
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Moving away when your in high school is different from moving away when your in elementary. I believe its kinda scary because as people get older, it gets harder n harder just to start making friends. And it gets harder and harder for people to accept you, unlike elementary school where the kids just play and the next minute their best friends. Older people have to deal with more than just a hi and a bye. I haven't moved during high school years, but from what i see, that's kinda true.
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