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we have all been in one or another, think back to when you first entered into highschool with all of those confusing hallways, (even when the seniors said that it was "just a square" but you still couldn't figure it out for the life of you) and that one especially ranchy hallway where the jocks stood. Remember sticking with your public school friends that very first day?... or were you the one who ventured off into the unknown to meet the others? which ever path you chose, did you stick with it? did you stay with your old buddies? or did you find a new group to hang with? im talking about the highschool clicks. Every school has them; the jocks who work out during lunch, the smokers, the emo's, the preppy, the geeks who are in class just as the 10 minute or 8 minute bell rings (how do they do that anyway), and even the socially challenged. i am in my last year and will be graduating, it has taken me quite the time to ask my self what are these "clicks" for and what is their purpose?, do they help you as a guide to find your true self? do they give a person the self conscience that they need?, were teens not fitting in anywhere else?... so i leave a few questions.... did you find what you were looking for?, do "clicks" benefit your time spent at highschool? or do you regret not meeting other people and experiencing a different side of highschool life? please respond
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its hard topic to responed to. in short i hate clicks, and love them at the same time. i hate the feeling of being ostracized, and yet i love fitting in with MY group of friends. i can't say that they ruined me, since i've been able to hop from one click to another since the beginning of highschool, and seem to have different friends now than i did in grade nine, and even grade 10, 11. there were the really good friends i kept close, and then there were the really good friends i acquired along the way. so in navigating the "hallways' and the clicks ( some of which are still intimidating i won't lie) i've been able to find myself. im by no mean "popular" but im not a loser either, and i like my comfortable existence. i've grown as an individual
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I think that cliques are a very important aspect of high school life, especially imporant in the earlier years. They give everyone a place where they can feel comfortable and feel a sense of belonging. I am graduating this year and would say that I am popular at our school. I think that cliques have been important because they give people the confidence to fit in and try. I would say that if you try hard enough you can fit into any clique that you would chose, I personally think that i could change gears at almost any time and switch my circle of friends at any time if the need arose. It gives people options
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I think people kind of move into cliques because they find a group of people that they feel comfortable with. I felt very out of place in grade 8 because my best friend was a year older than me and she was in high school. I also had another best friend since kindergarten, but through the years, she drifted to another clique that I just didn't fit in with. Even though we hardly talk now, we still consider each other best freinds, I guess because that even though it could be months since talking to her, I could still call her up to hang out, and it wouldn't be much a deal. When I got to high school, I met a whole new group of friends, all different people, all different ages. We occupied a whole hallway of the school and we'd all gather there everyday, there were about 20 of us. People would bring there CD players and plug them in, or bring their amp and guitar and play some music, it was a great time. I loved that group of people because they were always welcoming. Most of them I'm still friends with today. It's amazing, going into grade 9 I never actually listened to those T.V. shows, or my parents, who would always say how high school goes by so fast. It really does. It sucks going back to my high school and walking past that hallway and seeing it empty, knowing that I'll never get those days back again, and that they just went by so fast.
Success is not the key to happiness, happiness is the key to success. If you love what you do in life, you will be a success!!
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I totally disagree with what Heather has to say, not everyone has been in a click. Clicks happen alot once people enter big high schools. I Come from a graduating class of about 200 and everyone knows everyone yeah we may not be the best of friends and talk everyday but we do make the effort to get to know them even if its the smallest detail, or to say hi in the hallways. Our kids meet up at TA for smoke breaks and its not just 5-10 kids it about 30 of us everyday at that time and then there is the extra 15 or so who come out to grab their bags and just to talk on that little break, but our school does not have the smokers who are hated by the popular people and/or mean girls. If you were to look at us it would actually be a change you could classify me as a smoker or one of the popular girls or the high school girl of the sweetheart couple who seems to somehow always make it through, but just because im all these does not mean im not a nerd at times or that i dont do well in school or sit there snickering about other people because I honestly dont, and I no my friends honestly dont. We all get along and its been like that for years hell we were like that with the kids who graduated the year before us and the ones graduating a year after that and so on. We care and its honestly about having a heart and not clicks because if your posting about them it means you believe in them but had you never believed in them and gone around liking everyone it wouldnt be like that. I have friends who are smokers, and the pretty girls ( but when you believe they are pretty why arent you believing someone doesnt see you the way you see them), I have guy friends who skateboard, and i have guy friends who are amazing musicians, I date the guy who smokes pot yet gets 90% in every class and one of his best friends happens to be totally un into pot or smoking but their friends. You have to think around whats on the outside because as much as your raving about clicks youve proably been the first to judge someone or not like them to you started that one offset and if you yourself dont like being "Clicked" then done "Click" People. It amazing how much easier this does make things!
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Well...I'm sort of 50/50 on the whole "clicks" things. I can see how clicks help make friends and find where you stand in ur school, but it can also be cruel and outcasting too...I can't really say whether I'm in a "click" or not, because "clicks" can be very exclusive, where only a certain kind of person can join (likes the emos, the jocks...), but with me and my friends...we let almost anyone hang out with us (I guess so long as they're nice and fun to be around).
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Cliques are a way of making people feel secure like they belong. Having one allows you not to worry about social pressures. You don't feel obligated to prove anything to anyone because there is already a group who likes you for who you are.
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I think that cliques have some upsides and some downsides. It gives you the comfort of your really good friends, who you get along with and share common interests. But it can and it does get to the point where it is no longer a clique but a cult, where people are starting to feel violated and left out and that is when I believe that they are bad. It is hard to say that most people are not in a clique because almost everyone is. It may not intentionally be considered a clique but just group of friends that you have known for a very long time and get along with really well. Everyone has their group of friends and there is nothing wrong with that, but if your group is so against hanging out or meeting new people than that is where is crosses the line between having a group of friends and being nasty.
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Nobody likes clicks but everyone wants to fit in a little.
The good thing about university (in my opinion it's good) you get to meet more people and are on your own because chances are you won't have alot of your friends going to the same school. These are the people that you will be friends with for the rest of your life. It gives you the chance to meet SO many more people that have the same interests as you and they are all on the same level, knowing very few people and will be in the same boat as you.
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I hated high school when I was actually in high school. Cliques dont evevn matter after you leave high school. You're a totally different person and all those people who you thought were your bff drifts away.
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My high school is pretty odd in the way that we don't have cliques.
We're pretty new still, with only 5 grad classes and all of the students know each other.
Thats not to say that we don't have our own 'groups' but almost every single person within these groups are interchangeable.
So while I may spend part of my lunch hour hanging out with the 'freaks' only to skiv off and chill with the 'all-arounds'
Its really nice, but I have noticed the younger grades bringing in the cliques and things like that.
Oh well, at least I'm graduating.
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i think the cliques form because people realize how insecure they really are on the inside. if you were completely sure of yourself you wouldn't be afraid to venture out and meet new people. Being friends with a certain crowd and becoming comfortable within those limits shouldn't allow you to make a clique. People are so much better off when they are friendly to others and care about other people just as much as themself. In my mind a clique is one group of people against the rest of the cliques in the school. How much time and energy does that require you to put into maintaining your social status. does it really matter in the end? i still think the happier people are the ones who are considerate of other people and would give up of themselves to help another person
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Cliques are only negative when people stereotype others and dissociate/look down on/make fun of people in other "friend groups." It's pretty natural for everyone to have their own group of friends and hang out with people they share common interests and attitudes with.
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From grade 8 to grade 9 I knew a lot of people that went on to the same high school (from Quest Alt. to Riverdale C.I.) and I also had a lot of friends from back in grade school.
My high school was pretty much 90% non-whites, and though it sounds terribly racist I was in the "white-popular" group, not all of us were white, but close enough.
I never saw any racism, and I don't think there was in my high school, just so happened groups from grade school and junior high stayed together (Duke & Pape vs. Frankland & Quest).
Uschi
Queen's '10
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At my school there are no "clicks", a lot of people just hang out with people that they know.
York University- Psychology (BA Honors) '12
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"Cliques are a way of making people feel secure like they belong. Having one allows you not to worry about social pressures. You don't feel obligated to prove anything to anyone because there is already a group who likes you for who you are. "
This is exactly what cliques are
But think about it most of you are all like oh im 50 50 or i usually hang out with my group of friends still
so therefore you will and most likely are still classified as a click it may be the cool kids or the smokers or the freaks but you dont venture outside of your group for the amount of time it takes to actually get to know someone if people did this cliques would be a small thing in high school rather then large honestly. If your best friend in kindergarten happened to be the freak did that change how you were her best friend or what kind of person she was. No instead you judged them and made them the kind of person you classifyed them as, you titled them. So yeah these people may like you for who you are but why sit there and say i dont need to prove who i am to others? isnt that kinda contradicotry because you do it to everyone else exept for the people you go to school with, for example you have a part time job you prove to your boss your talented and inderpendant and can do the job you prove who you are to them, but yet you cant prove this to the people you dont have to say sir or mam to or the kids who would take you as you are alot easier compared to the adults. This is weird and for some reason it seems like many of you do it but honestly if you could be nice and make the effort to everyone wouldnt that change how you feel about people. I may not like everyone and may not be their best friend, but the fact that even people i dont like say hi to me or i say hi to them means something, and what that is is that we have overcome the naming or titleing of people to understand they are just like us. They deal with the same problems with relationships and schools or the stress of finishing homework while working a part time job. This can be done and i am a prime example of that, as is my school.
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I feel that i have not been in an actual click that is often sterotyped as the preps or freaks or smokers. i do realize that i have been hanging around the same people from public school and a few others which are new to me. in general, i have been in some sort of group i guess. this reality struck me when i was in grade 10 and i realized that everyone has feelings which are similar to my own. Every one has their own style and personalities which put them into a group which they feel comfortable with. for the past two years i have tried hanging out with new people and it works! so why did i think i could only stay with my original group for the first two years? i now know many people and i talk to almost everyone in my school. now, you can't always find me sitting at my locker hanging out with my original friends. im off talking to others and being with other people. the best thing about it is i don't feel insecure! i feel fine just like if i were with my original buddies. so i agree with some of the previous statements made by others and how there really aren't a such thing as clicks, it's just a figment of the imagination, really it's possible for everyone to mingle and hangout because we all have similar feelings. it's just the misjudgements and insecurities that make the whole thing impossible for some.
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I was fine at my old highschool I basically grew up with everyone that I went to high school with. But I also had my small groups of friends we were considered the "Outsiders" like from the book. Then I moved which sucked but I made a new group which is kinda like my old friends but instead of them being into Hockey and Starcraft they are into Anime and Warcraft I'm only into some anime and I love hockey. Anyway I know no one in my grade though. Like only 5 people. All in my class though  So I feel a little left out hopefully I won't feel that way in university.
YORK; Honors Arts - History Major/German minor? '12
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My click is a group of 8 people from my middle school. I'm now in senior year and we still hang out together.
During lunch we push two tables together and we're like a big family. It's too awesome. We also hang out with a few outsiders who we met during high school, and they just don't understand how we've stayed such good friends for so many years.. none of them talk to their middle school friends.
I don't have anything against clicks.. they allow people with similar interests to come together and be comfortable with each other.
High school can be really overwhelming and scary at the beginning, it's much easier if you're going through it with people you have common interests with.
I would say that at my school, no one really excludes others, even if they don't fit in with the rest of the group. Grade 12s are mostly friendly and have moved on (for the most part) from their drama filled days of backstabbing and all that.. we're so close to graduation so we just want to enjoy our remaining time.
Ryerson 2012
Politics & Governance
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I never liked the idea of clicks because they can't seem to accept other people at all, and as a result people feel alienated and lonely. I liked it when I was in a "click" and I always tried my best to include whoever wanted to hang out with us. Most people don't know how to do that.
McMaster '12!
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