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is york a good place to meet other gay ppl? wut unis are the best?
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Not sure, I've never been but I'm sure you can meet them just about anywhere in any University 
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DreamRaver wrote:Not sure, I've never been but I'm sure you can meet them just about anywhere in any University yea, I would have to agree with you there .
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Yeah, I don't think people select universities based on their own sexuality and if there might be others there who they can identify with, but hey, it's true that you could probably find others everywhere.
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ya, i think most university would be pretty good... and Toronto in general has a pretty big gay community
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Feona wrote:Yeah, I don't think people select universities based on their own sexuality and if there might be others there who they can identify with, but hey, it's true that you could probably find others everywhere. Some people are actually pretty conscious of that aspect of University though, especially if you come from a small town like I do. I'm gay, and I'm looking to escape from the small town I live in right now. It'd be nice to go to a school where you could make a bunch of friends who you could identify with in that way. I also think you could find that at probably any University, you're bound to come across atleast some gay people somewhere. The biggest cities are probably the best for meeting people though.
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In my experience, most universities have a pretty substantial gay, and gay-friendly population. Every school I've been to also has a Pride Club, I would recommend you joining that club.
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if you go to Glendon campus, half the guys there are probably gay
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Butterknife wrote:Feona wrote:Yeah, I don't think people select universities based on their own sexuality and if there might be others there who they can identify with, but hey, it's true that you could probably find others everywhere. Some people are actually pretty conscious of that aspect of University though, especially if you come from a small town like I do. I'm gay, and I'm looking to escape from the small town I live in right now. It'd be nice to go to a school where you could make a bunch of friends who you could identify with in that way. I also think you could find that at probably any University, you're bound to come across atleast some gay people somewhere. The biggest cities are probably the best for meeting people though. I'm in the same situation, from a small town that doesn't accept me, and trying to escape.
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MDoucett wrote:Butterknife wrote:Feona wrote:Yeah, I don't think people select universities based on their own sexuality and if there might be others there who they can identify with, but hey, it's true that you could probably find others everywhere. Some people are actually pretty conscious of that aspect of University though, especially if you come from a small town like I do. I'm gay, and I'm looking to escape from the small town I live in right now. It'd be nice to go to a school where you could make a bunch of friends who you could identify with in that way. I also think you could find that at probably any University, you're bound to come across atleast some gay people somewhere. The biggest cities are probably the best for meeting people though. I'm in the same situation, from a small town that doesn't accept me, and trying to escape. But you are from Ottawa it says - that is not that small a town! I'm from a real small town, albeit a tourist town and almost everyone accepts gays, bisexuals and transsexuals. There are a few older holy rollers who don't get it but for the most part the town accepts all.
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York is pretty good, so far as I know. I'm sure we have the usual bleeps (unfortunately), but there's a thriving TBLG group and the Women's Centre on the main campus hosts queer-friendly and queer-centric events as well. They run training sessions at the beginning of the school year as well, so you can designate your residence room (if you live on campus) as a "Positive Space". There are monthly queer nights at the Underground (the campus pub). I'm sure there are problems with the campus, I've heard some anecdotes though I never suffered any discrimination myself, but there are places to turn to and most people are receptive to different sexualities. Also, a Sexuality Studies program started up a few years ago!
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I know there is a gay population in every university, but how can I meet them without really letting everyone know that I'm gay? And I'm planning to stay on rez and get a double room, so how should I deal with my roommate? How can I find out if he's gay friendly or not?
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chocolate_craver wrote:I know there is a gay population in every university, but how can I meet them without really letting everyone know that I'm gay? And I'm planning to stay on rez and get a double room, so how should I deal with my roommate? How can I find out if he's gay friendly or not? You don't want anybody to know your gay? I'm not gay, so I don't have much experience with that, but I don't really understand that logic. What's the point in hiding it? I would go to the gay club at your university and join up. I'm sure a large percentage of the gay population will have ties to the club so you'll meet a lot of people that way. You should also let your roommate know that you are gay. I think they should have the right to request a room change if it makes them uncomfortable.
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Well I'm scared that people are going to isolate me if I come out to everyone. And as for roommate, should I just go up to him and say "I'm gay" the first day I move in? That's pretty awkward and scary.
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chocolate_craver wrote:Well I'm scared that people are going to isolate me if I come out to everyone. And as for roommate, should I just go up to him and say "I'm gay" the first day I move in? That's pretty awkward and scary. Some people are going to hate you for being gay. That's life. However, do you actually think you could hide that you're gay for that long and would you feel comfortable doing that? I would just be honest and upfront about it. If people don't like you for who you are, there's not much you can do about it. I would just have a conversation the first day with your roommate. It shouldn't be the first thing you talk about but you should definitely let him know. Tell them that you're gay, and just explain how you will try not to make them uncomfortable, etc. and just establish some ground rules for your room.
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chocolate_craver wrote:Well I'm scared that people are going to isolate me if I come out to everyone. And as for roommate, should I just go up to him and say "I'm gay" the first day I move in? That's pretty awkward and scary. I think being upfront with your roommate about your orientation can either help ease the transition or make it totally difficult if he's not open to that kind of stuff. Alot of people are open though, so I'd suggest letting him know, and assuring him that just because your gay does not mean your going after every guy you see, so your not going to make moves on him. I know I would like to be told upfront instead of walking in to the room and see you kissing your boyfriend, at least knowing upfront I can prepare myself that an event like that can happen instead of not knowing and just receiving a system overload if it were to occur.
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I plan on telling my roommate upfront that I'm bi. I wouldn't want to scare them if they come home and I'm making out with a chick. That would just be too awkward. Its better to be upfront and let them know then hiding it and them finding out by accident. So much easier to deal before than after, that way you can deal with any possible drama at the beginning of the year than half way through and be stuck with a roomy when you both dislike each other intently. I can't wait to go to college and meet new people, coming from a small town like a few of the others here, it will be a bit of a relief to be able to be who I am without any rejection.
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I guess that'd be the best thing to do. If I go to Waterloo then I'll get my roommate contact info in July so us two can talk to each other before moving in. Should I tell him then, or should I let him know more about me first? I was just thinking that it might be better if he knows what kind of person you are first so when I tell him he will still respect me as a person, if not my sexuality.
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I think if you're going to tell your roommate, you could probably get to know them first, and just like tell them once you get to know them. There's more to you than being gay, so just talk to them about who you are. The awkwardness that could occur with the roommate situation is why I'm praying, to the effing greek gods, that I get to take a single room wherever I go. Also, waterloo seems like a pretty rocking school, I have a friend who goes there and is gay. He really loves it there  .
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back to the original post - I think all, if not, very close to all GTA region universities have GLBT groups or social scenes happening at their various campuses. I know that York has their own group called TBLGAY, which stands for the Transgendered, Bisexual, Lesbian and Gay Association At York University. Website: http://www.yorku.ca/tblgay/ I have a few friends that are gay and that go to York and they're fine. If you've never been to Toronto before, there is a great gay community downtown, where the true fun action is at ;) Just head down to Church and Wellesley aka "The Village" and I'm sure you'll have a gay ol' time! Good luck at York!
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