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i'm not too sure if this topic had already been discussed or not, but now that i have to start thinking about residences, what are some pros and cons to having your high school friend as a roommate?
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I personally wouldn't recommend it.
Best-case scenario: You have a great year with your friend.
Worst-case scenario: You lose a friend
If you room with a random however...
Best-case scenario: Make a new friend.
Worst-case scenario: Not make a new friend.
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You're good friends with your high school friend, when you're out and about active and having fun. Have you ever lived with them for 8 months to know what they're really like, and if you can handle it?
Like Stringer said, it can be hit or miss, usually miss from what I've heard from friend's experiences and on this forum
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It really depends.
If you've only had this friend for the past few years of high school, I definitely wouldn't recommend it. Chances are you probably don't know them that well.
I've been friends with my best friend since kindergarten, and even though we've hung around different groups from time to time, we always find time to hang out with each other. It would make sense for me, to share a room with her, just because we've been friends for 14 years.
If your just thinking of sharing a room with one of those friends you've just recently made in the past two or so years, I wouldn't recommend it.
Maybe if they are only an acquaintence, cause then that way, if you do end up going your separate ways, it's not going to be so bad.
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I would actually go for the 'nearly random' roommate, and that's why I'm searching them out on Facebook Carleton 2012 groups  Even if I could room with my boyfriend, I don't think I would want to on my first year, I want someone new for a roommate, but still someone who I can get along well with (so that person better love political philosophy, Youtube, and video games, or ....  lol)
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My roommate was one of my high school friends, but not a very close friend... we were in the same social circle, but we didn't spend a lot of time one-on-one. It worked out really well living together, which I guess was sort of luck of the draw. I didn't spend a lot of time in the room, which probably helped. The bottom line is that it can work out, you've just got to think about it and be honest with yourself.
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The vast majority of the time, rooming with a close friend from high school (even someone you've known your whole life) results in disaster.
There is so much more to gain from living with a random than sticking with someone you know. If you have a good friend thats comfortable and familiar with you, you won't be forced to leave your comfort zone so much.
A better idea is to live with an acquaintance from high school. These usually work out quite well.
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i've been friends with this buddy, who has a really good attitude with EVERYTHING--very optimistic) for 4 years, except that we hung out more often this year. i want to live in a double room as an university 'experience' but i guess i'm a bit intimidated by 'random roomies.' i think i'm going to mac next year, but not that many people (acquaintences) are going there with me--i can't even name the 5 people.
i'll probably sound like a party pooper here, but i don't want a roomie who will have parties in our room like every week, always play loud music, snores, or do all the little pet peeves i have. my ultimate goal is to be accepted into med school, so i'm gonna try to avoid distractions while enjoying my university life. problem is, since my buddy CLEARLY knows that i'm aiming for med school, my bud's gonna try (hopefully...)to not cause disturbance in our room.
i guess it's a bit of risk. but i'm not so sure if it's worth the risk. we're like buddies where if something about us pisses off each other, we'll tell each other (at least indiscreetly).
any other pros and cons?
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btw, my buddy and i'll be in the same program too. 
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quester wrote:i've been friends with this buddy, who has a really good attitude with EVERYTHING--very optimistic) for 4 years, except that we hung out more often this year. i want to live in a double room as an university 'experience' but i guess i'm a bit intimidated by 'random roomies.' i think i'm going to mac next year, but not that many people (acquaintences) are going there with me--i can't even name the 5 people.
i'll probably sound like a party pooper here, but i don't want a roomie who will have parties in our room like every week, always play loud music, snores, or do all the little pet peeves i have. my ultimate goal is to be accepted into med school, so i'm gonna try to avoid distractions while enjoying my university life. problem is, since my buddy CLEARLY knows that i'm aiming for med school, my bud's gonna try (hopefully...)to not cause disturbance in our room.
i guess it's a bit of risk. but i'm not so sure if it's worth the risk. we're like buddies where if something about us pisses off each other, we'll tell each other (at least indiscreetly).
any other pros and cons? lol the opposite for me many of my friends are going to mac. keep in mind there is a survey (at western at least) where they ask questions like "do you listen to music when you study" etc. and they try to match you up. i'm on the fence about rooming with my best friend. i dont want to ruin our friendship. we have gotten along well over the years. he sorta expects me to room with him and i went to say yes soo badly but im unsure. btw he would be in the same program as me
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mmm yes I'm having the same dilemma.
room with someone I know, versus a "random"...
I'm thinking what if I hate my new roomate, but I'm also thinking its too "comfortable" to room with someone you already know...
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lilacwine wrote:mmm yes I'm having the same dilemma.
room with someone I know, versus a "random"...
I'm thinking what if I hate my new roomate, but I'm also thinking its too "comfortable" to room with someone you already know... Even your best friend was a stranger once.
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I don't think anyone here has taken a survey of the entire population of students who have lived with their best friend, or who lived with a total stranger, to know what works out better.
You need to go with what your gut tells you. If you have never spent more than 24 hours straight with your friend, then I suggest doing that. If it's a friend who you rarely spend time with, then I would suggest having a random person picked for you through the residence application, because chances are if you have never been over to their house or vis versa, I doubt you are about to ask them all of the great questions that residence applications ask.
Again, the only person I would ever consider rooming with, who is my friend would definitely be my friend whom I've known the longest, just because I know her personality well, and it matches up quite well with mine. I've had 14 years, of sleepovers, or sleepovers that turn into spending the whole week/weekend with eachother. We've also spent millions of hours studying and doing projects together, so I also know what her work/study habits are like as well.
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I ended up my first year in an off campus apartment style residence with 5 random girls as roommates, we all got along pretty well for the most part. There was very little drama which was quite surprising and one of the girls and I are getting a place together for next year
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I'd say get a random roommate. Your best friend will still be there for you if you end up with a really bad random roommate, but if your best friend is your roommate and it doesn't work out, who are you going to go to? Also I find people who room with their best friends from high school don't end up making as many new friends since they're always with eachother. You can always transfer rooms if it doesn't work out.
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ahaha, wow, now i'm kind of scared..
here's my story lol.
i actually REALLY wanted to have a random person as a roomie. my friend is also going with me to the same university but at first we weren't really like, yo let's room together.
one day, our other friend was just like, hey both of u are going to university and in a jokingly manner i was like 'you wanna be my roomie'... he said 'sure' but he probably took me seriously..
the next day he asked me, so how do we become roomates? i was just like O_O.. then it would be rude if i said no i dnt want u to be my roomate lol, so i just said yes and now it's official we're roomies... but honestly though, i really dnt mind having him as a roomate though.. it's just that from reading a lot of stuff online, it made me think but i guess i'll try to make this work. haha
and we are pretty close friends, so i definitely didn't want to say no
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Don't do it, broaden your horizions and meet new people.
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