people always change.. especially in highschool and university... it's when people discover who "they are".. lol

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wat do u want it to say, i'm a snob and all i want to talk about is how stressed out i am with an average over 90%? like seriously people

yea i believe ppl do change....but that's actually normal if your friends are not in same program as you.
all my high school friends either went to different schools or just differnet programs at my university.
occasionally we (including their new friends) do meet up,
but i notice they seem more attached to their new friends....but i guess that's because they have smae classes/tutorials together, etc.

What is a "friend"? Someone who you talk to every day isn't necessarily your friend. You can't really tell who your friends are until the ice breaks.

I would think that everyone changes but you just don't realise it because you are changing with them. If you are always talking to them and you guys are involved with each others lives even if its just hanging out once or twice a week, you won't notice it as much. I'm just thankful that my friends and I are staying relativly close to home so we can still see each other occasionally.

In university you see who you want to see. So you're going to remain friends with whoever you want as long as you put the effort in. Of course people change, people always change. I think my friends and I might have changed but I don't really notice it.

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University of Alberta - Mechanical Engineering '11

It really depends. Often, you’ll end up pairing yourself with the least likely person from high school during university i.e. someone you never looked at or conversed with, but bonded in university due to your mutual background. Sometimes, your best friend from high school also going to the same university ends up getting closer to new people because she’s always involved in study groups or with classmates in her lectures. People can really beat themselves up about not maintaining the same kind of closeness or relationships with older friends as they did before, but I think that transition is sometimes natural – even necessary – when you’re getting to a point in your life when you’re meant to branch out. Interacting with unfamiliar (and sometimes!) daunting faculty members, getting to know people you wouldn’t normally talk to etc. are all a normal process in university, and sometimes incredibly important. I don’t think I saw a drastic personality change in the people I knew from high school (unless they were really tied down by their parents or social barriers from partying or doing any of the things they desired to) although indirectly, experience with different situations and people DOES change you, inevitably. I feel I am a much stronger person now that I’ve been through first year – learning to deal with stress, financial issues, people that scaled from intimidating to incredibly kind, etc. changes you in more ways than you can imagine. Don’t be frightened about not being “the same person”. We’re at a stage in life where we haven’t really figured out who we truly are, and university is basically a medium through which we’re letting this discovery unfold.

I say, now’s the best time to take advantage of the situation. Even if your older friends have changed to a point where you can’t recognize them anymore, and can no longer relate to them - doesn’t mean that there aren’t people out there who can jell with you far more strongly. Go out and embrace the strange!