Age definately matters!! not only are you both at different stages in your life, but you have to think, why would he want to date someone that young. He probably feels uncomfortable with people his own age or likes having power over you. I am 18 as well and eventhough i am considered mature for my age i still know that i have alot to learn about the world. So do you. There it tons of great guys out there and people your own age can usually relate bettter to you and you have more in common. He's at the age where he should be settling down while your at the age where you have the freedom to party. they don't go together. i don't think there is anything wrong with staying friends but if you weren't sexually attracted to him, would you still want too?

Dang girl...
Dang.

I dunno. You know what they say! Age is but a number! =]

But really... I guess it all depends on compatibility. If you feel that he's the right guy for you, age really doesn't matter. As long as he's not a jerk who's using you because you're a young sexamuffin or something. (that's right. I said sexamuffin) Just make sure he's worth it. Because guys are dumb and can get bored of people quickly so make sure he's as into it as your are.

Personally, for me, I would find the age unnerving. I'm 18 and I dated a guy who was 23 and I was even uncomfortable with that. Whatever floats your boat as long as it's legal... welllll...as long as you don't get caught. =]

i dated a 21 yr old when i was 16, and i hope your relationship's outcome fares better than i did.
he was in a totally different stage in life and wanted different things both within and outside of the relationship. i also felt pressured to do a lot of things, and i know i wouldnt have been had i dated someone my own age.

also: ask yourself. does he like me or does he like the idea of a "younger girl"? presumably impressionable, virginal (or at least relatively more so than girls his age), and more obideint, for lack of a better term. why isn't he dating girls his own age? this could acctually be a serious issue, especially with that giant age gap and while you're both so young. also consider why you're so attracted to him. i know, at least in my case, that it was the appeal of an "older guy", who would take me to college parties, and was different than the guys in my classes. now i realise he was a loser who couldnt do better than a naive girl, and that all he ultimately wanted was another "special" knot on his belt.

more often than not the age difference also gives him (i assume the He is older, and that you're hetero) power and control over you.

i say dump this loser. the fact that you're asking complete strangers' opinions says you're already insecure and unsure about this. you can find someone jsut as great, and probably better in your own age bracket.

be careful and good luck!

What's wrong with a 10 year age difference?

I mean, look what you might (hopefully) be getting:

1. A fellow with an established career.

2. A fellow with assets - car, house, job, savings - you know so he can spend his money on you, drive you to Bon Jovi concerts (or whatever), maybe if you hit it off become your room and board, etc.

3. This guy's maturity might help be a steadying influence for you when you're surrounded by all the party animals at school.


Is this really a turn off? If so, why? What do people closer to your own age have that is so important to have?

As for different life stages, if you and your partner are willing to accept that fact then things will be fine. For example, I'm leaving for school in September and am moving about 9 hours away and he's starting his career as a firefighter, I know its going to be hard on me and my boyfriend but we've already have a great foundation to our relationship and are already prepared for the change..

And if your partner is well off that's not a bad asset

haha looks like you got the good end of the bargain here.
im assuming hes well established in a career and has a place of his own. you however are, im assuming, just out of highschool or in first year uni.

you've got to consider WHY he would want to be with you...
are you just as mature and intellectually stimulating in conversation, or experienced in love, as any other girl his age he could be persuing?
is he immature and in an 18 year old mindframe (not acting his own age)- so you two click?
is he unsuccessful and overall going nowhere, so girls his age wouldn't consider him?
and finally, hate to say it.. but, is he just looking for a young/ naive/ innocent virgin?

if you've answered yes, no, no, and no, then you're fine. stick with it. age doesn't seem to be a big issue for you two. but if you answered no, yes, yes, and yes, then get out of that relationship and find someone your own age.

Age does not necessarily matter. My grandparents were 13 years apart and they lived happily ever after and went on to have 18 children. My coworker however was married to someone 14 years her age and their marriage just ended. He got sick and could not have sexual intercourse anymore and she couldn't take it at her age. So compatibility does matter, it has to be real love and thing through things very carefully and about what your future could look like if you end up getting serious. Otherwise its great you found someone you can get along with. Enjoy it your still young.

I agree with this!
I know its wierd but i have been with a 31 year old for the past 6 months and I am 18!
But i have never been happier.
We make each other laugh and he is financially stable, having had a few years expierience and plans on owning his own dealership.
I am working in town near him so i think that i why it is working out so well.
I am not sure if the distance thing will make or break us(when i go off to college), but even if we fell apart,
i could never see us having a messy dramatic break up.
Its more like we would be happy for each other no matter what choice we make.

And if anyone is wondering, i would never let him get in the way of my plans for the future. I refuse to get stuck here in hickasstown, Canada.

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Have No Fear of Perfection
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Well if you want to know if someone is too young/old for you, there is always half plus seven rule. Your boyfriend is 28 and half of that would be 14 and add seven to that you get 21. So according to the rule you're 3 years too young for your boyfriend.

(Male)cougar bar?
Friend of parents? (just kidding!)
No seriously... where did you meet your bf?